I remember when I was really unwilling to try to do certain things by myself. To go out for a meal by myself or to go to the cinema by myself was unthinkable, in fact the thought alone was horrifying!

Having been used to sharing interests and activities with friends, I became used to this pattern of living. Maybe it’s because I’m shy and reserved by nature, the idea of going out to an event “alone” is a very big step! Actually it’s scary. However there came a point in my life when I needed to challenge myself to do the unthinkable. Let’s face it – there were times when my couple friends were going out as couples and sometimes I felt out of place. There may be events that I may want to go to but friends are not interested in doing the same things. So what should I do? I can go by myself or stay home and watch the world go by as I wait for others to do things with. Either way I’m doing it alone so I may as well go out and experience something new! Well anyway that was the plan.

I had attended a creative event in West London previously with friends and really enjoyed it. There was live music, spoken word, dance, poetry and food available, which is always a good thing! This time I was really looking forward to going, but no one was available. After much hesitation and deliberation, I finally decided to go by myself.

The first hurdle was to find the place! I had previously gone with friends by car, now I had to work out a route by train and bus from north to west London. But I was not put off by the fear of getting lost in an area I did not know.. “I will find the place! I will be fine!” (I talked myself into going). I have found that having conversations with myself (positive self-talk), encouraging myself with positive words helps to keep me moving forward.

So after arriving unscathed at the venue, I felt a little anxious about going in alone, however I did it anyhow. I really enjoyed the event, the singers, musicians and poets were great… things were fine until the intermission. I went out to the foyer and bought a drink and as I looked around I saw couples, and groups of friends together. Being alone at this point, I must admit, did feel a bit uncomfortable, I felt like a spare part in a garage! I returned to my seat rather rapidly and proceeded to engage with my trusted companion – a book – which was fine. I didn’t have the confidence to initiate a conversation with anyone, and that was fine too. I had battled my demon of fear and won!! I had gone out on my own despite the fear, and as a result I had enjoyed a lovely evening! I thanked God for helping me to be brave and step out of my comfort zone to try something that I wanted to do by myself. It has given me the confidence to do more in life.

I challenge you to step forward to do new things in life, things that you will enjoy… a new hobby, a class, or event. You may feel apprehensive about it, but don’t let that stop you, encourage yourself with these words that I have found helpful:

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13.

So what are you waiting for? Go and try something new!