She opens her mouth in skillful and Godly wisdom and on her tongue is the law of kindness. 
Proverbs 31: 26

How many times in our day to day activities are we faced with challenging situations?  Sometimes people can rub us up the wrong way.  We won’t always get on with every one like a house on fire, so we need to follow the law of kindness.

I find it useful to ask myself the question, how would I like someone to speak to me?

I would like to be treated courteously, and with respect, so that is how I need to treat others.  It is very tempting when somebody is rude to us, to give them a piece of our mind.  However the Bible says that we should be wise and use kindness in our response.

It is never a good idea to speak when angry.  I have had to bite my tongue, close my mouth tightly, and count to 10 before responding when someone has upset me.  I am still learning that it is not worth having an argument, even when I may feel justified or believe that I am right.  If it is a matter of opinion and not principle then silence can indeed be golden.  In the past I have been like a dog with a bone, but I am learning that in order to preserve relationships it is better to state my case and then let it go.

We need to ask God to give us wisdom and help us not to allow our tongues to run away with us.  May He help us to show kindness to others in what we say, and let us also be forgiving of others too when they say hurtful things.  Together we can use Godly wisdom as we speak to each other in a kind way.